Wedding accessories style guide

When it comes to your wedding day, every detail counts. While the suit is the star of the show, it’s the accessories that add a touch of sophistication, charm and individuality. Here’s our guide on the essential accessories that can transform the look of the groom and groomsmen.

The pocket square effect

Pocket squares are pretty much standard issue on the modern wedding suit. It’s partly a throwback to smarter times, as the square has slid away from business attire. But a carefully chosen pocket square can inject personality into your suit, whether it’s a splash of vivid colour, a whisper of a pattern, or a classic white for the understated gentleman.

The art of the fold – be it a straight fold, puff or winged – plays an equally important role in the final look. Remember, it’s not necessarily about matching your tie exactly, but rather complementing the colours and creating a harmonious ensemble. A well-chosen pocket square can make you stand out in the very best way.

Cufflinks: elegance on your sleeve

Cufflinks are another innovation that was once normal but now tends to be reserved for special occasions. Quite why is a mystery, because they always look great, and add a flash of personality to your wrists.

From classic gold and silver to more contemporary designs featuring gemstones or unique shapes, there’s a cufflink for every style. Matching cufflinks with your shirt and other accessories ensures a cohesive look. A simple bullet back differs greatly from a whale back or a stud link, so choose a type that not only complements your style but also offers ease of use.

Emotional anchors

There will always be someone you would dearly have loved to be at your wedding, but is sadly no longer with you. Whether it’s a close relative, a friend or just someone who has changed your life for the better, you can feel like they’re sharing your day by introducing an heirloom of theirs, whether it’s a piece of jewellery, a pin or something that’s hidden away, known only to you. Those who know its story can share in the emotional connection, but for everyone else, it’s just a charming trinket. That’s what makes it special.

Ties that speak volumes

Necktie or bow tie? Neckties offer a range of patterns and fabrics that can either add a touch of drama or blend smoothly into your outfit. They also give the perfect opportunity to experiment with one of the more experimental knots. It’s amazing how we’ve become conditioned to the regular four-in-hand, to the point where anything else looks classy and considered. Try one! Make sure the groom and groomsmen coordinate the knots, too. It’s just as important as the style.

Bow ties, meanwhile, bring a timeless charm and a hint of vintage flair. Whether you opt for silk, wool or a textured fabric, the choice should reflect both your personality and the formality of the occasion. The key is to ensure your tie or bow tie stands out without overshadowing the suit. Placement, the correct shirt style and the perfect knot are paramount; a well-adjusted tie is a clear mark of a gentleman.

Boutonnières and lapel pins

Nothing says elegance quite like a well-chosen boutonnière (usually called a buttonhole in the UK). This isn’t something you’d choose on a whim – it’ll no doubt be an integral part of the wider wedding plan, and will probably coordinate with the bridesmaids and other wedding day themes. In other words, if you want a say in what yours looks like, get your oar in early!

Buttonholes can be simple or extravagant, floral or leafy. They might hark back to your ancestral culture (such as thistle-based for Scots) or reference the location of the wedding. But for breaking down the lines of the suit and bringing a touch of nature, they’re popular for a reason.

Modern lapel pins, on the other hand, offer a fresh take, with options ranging from minimalist metal designs to quirky custom pieces. Wearing these accessories correctly is crucial: pin it to the left lapel, ensuring it’s secure without damaging the fabric. 

A classic timepiece

Whether you lean towards a sleek, modern design or a cherished vintage piece, your choice of wristwatch should be informed by the overall aesthetic of your attire. If possible, go for a watch that harmonises with your cufflinks and belt, establishing a seamless flow of metallic accents. A well-chosen timepiece not only complements your look but also becomes a lasting keepsake from a day you’ll remember forever.

Ties that bind: tie bars and clips

A well-chosen tie bar can break the monotony of a long tie, adding a layer of texture and interest. Ensure it’s placed between the third and fourth buttons of your shirt for that classic look. Always try to find a design that complements your other accessories without overshadowing them – it’s meant to be subtle. Whether you prefer minimalist metal bars or intricate designs, this small accessory can bring a polished finishing touch to your attire. 

Balance and glamour

Some guys will prefer to pick a few of these accessories to create subtle highlights; others will go all-in. Since many of them are small, subtle or hidden away behind sleeves and jackets, it’s hard to really overdo it, but just remember to look at your whole look and judge where there’s enough charm in an uninterrupted piece of fabric. Quality is an accessory in itself, as are pattern and cut, so if your suit already pushes the boat out a little, it’s fine to hold back on the non-essential accessories.

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Years down the line, you’ll be rooting through a drawer and come across your wedding-day cufflinks or tie pin and you’ll be taken straight back to that heady day, surrounded by friends and family, when you said “I will” to the love of your life. Choose well, and it’ll be about much more than looking great on the day.